No Regrets

Single awareness day is fast approaching. Although it feels as if the whole world looks at you and says, "What, you don't have a boyfriend? Why?..." I'd encourage you not to get discouraged if you're in my shoes.

I want to share a few things that were presented to me today. I know these things and live by them, but it was a nice reminder...

*The purpose of a relationship is to one day get married.
*A relationship requires honesty, trust, sacrifice, commitment, and so much more. A relationship with God requires the same.
*To have a closer relationship with God or anyone else, you talk to them. You spend time with them. You learn about them.
*From what I hear, relationships are difficult. That should not, however, be the deterring factor.

Here are 5 guidelines for dating
1. Don't date just because you can. (Our purpose in dating is to find a potential wife or husband.)
2. Set a standard! Whoever I date is going to be a Christian. He needs to respect me and my beliefs and convictions.
3. Stay true to that standard. Don't settle for less. No one is perfect. I understand that, but still, I expect for whoever I decide to date to meet my criteria. I will say that I do not have written on my list that they must have blonde hair and blue eyes ... Use the word of God to set your standard.
4. From the beginning, let them know those standards. Be up front with them. In dating, are you looking for A) a friend or B) a spouse? If you have selected B as the answer and the potential boy friend or girl friend has selected A, I highly suggest that you not persue the relationship.
5. You can't find your joy in each other. You need to make your relationship with God your priority. You will never be able to love each other until you are fully in love with God. You will be disappointed in your relationship until you have found contentment in God and him alone.

I live by these guidelines. To be honest, I have never had a boyfriend. Tonight, I was glad to be able to share with my seventh graders that I don't regret not having a boyfriend. I've saved my first kiss for my husband. I haven't given my heart away to be taken and broken in pieces without cause. I can't relate to all of the people that dated 5 different people each school year. That's a sacrifice I can handle. Whenever I do get a boyfriend, I want it to bring glory to God! I don't want to settle for less than he has prepared for me.

For now, content with being single until God chooses otherwise,
~§tacy White~